So now that we’ve laid down some disclaimers and a definition – let’s dive into my main theses about this subject.

My Statement and my Challenge: D&A2

Dads should never show anger towards their children.


Showing anger towards your children is always unwise.

Now, there is no Bible verse that states or implies this, so I’m standing on slightly shaky ground. I’ll be trying to lay a strong foundation in future posts – but for now …

If you disagree, try describing a time when showing anger towards a child is wise or necessary.

Also – two questions:

1. Do you try to not show anger towards your children when you are out in public?

2. The last time you saw a parent out in public showing anger towards his or her child, did you lose respect for them as a parent?

If your answer is ‘yes’ for either of them, can I ask why? I’d guess it’s because we feel it’s a bad sign if parents get angry with their children in public.

And if it’s true in public, why not in private?

The definition I found in the dictionary includes the idea of retribution. The angry person has an “impulse to retaliate”. Revenge should not be a motivation when you a responding to a child. As a parent you should be hoping to train, to discipline, to love, to teach, but not to retaliate.

Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 20:22 NIV

If this is true with your enemy, it should be true with your child.

So – do you agree or disagree with my statement? If you disagree, can you give me an example of a situation where it is right or helpful to show anger?

In any case, can you live like that? Can you decide to not show anger against your child?

Next – why we should be careful using the Cleansing of the Temple as an argument for permissible anger.

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